Allie Hoffman
Modern Dating
Episode Notes (by minute):
2:00: “but what it did do was expose that there's a world of people that are really deeply committed to communicating in a whole new way about wants and needs and desires…”
6:30: How Allie has a unique communication style and how she is often trying to communicate in way that help expose what is a layer deeper than the surface layer
8:30: “when we commit to being honest, our worlds like get more honest.”
10:00: How fear is a universal human emotion and how it may be impacting our communication too
12:00: Why Allie prefers a FaceTime with someone as a first date compared to defaulting to meeting up for a drink
16:00: How and why Allie started hosting singles events called The Feels
18:00: How Allie has noticed that women buy tickets for her events early, while men wait until closer to the event (and then are really committed). Allie thinks you might be able to apply this dating: men typically wait, but when they are in… they are in!
24:00: How the somatic parts of Allie’s events are the most powerful
29:00: How Allie’s events may be microcosm for life: how we may do things to protect other people’s feelings
33:00: How Allie tries to normalize everything that happens at her events as way to make people hopefully feel more like themselves
36:00: “the way we date better is to like date ourselves better.” Allie also referenced this “Are you doing the work” Substack post.
(Note: these are quick notes and takeaways by David Nebinski. Please see the episode for more accurate information)
Published Date: 2/1/24